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The Pretty Lie vs The Ugly Truth: What We Owe Each Other in Grief
In grief, we often face a quiet tension: choosing between the pretty lie that softens the moment or the ugly truth that holds real weight. Pretty lies feel protective, but they delay what is already true. And when the bubble bursts, it can add another layer of hurt. Sometimes the most compassionate thing we can offer is clear, honest truth - spoken with tenderness, and met with presence.

Melissa Blum
Nov 243 min read
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Connection as Medicine: What Our Brains Know About Support
Grief changes the body and brain. Discover how co-regulation, presence, and ritual help us feel safe enough to hold grief - together.

Melissa Blum
Oct 302 min read
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The Soundscape of Grief
Explore the soundscape of grief, how the songs that comfort and reflect us change over time, from numbness to acceptance to what lies beyond

Melissa Blum
Oct 222 min read
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The Grief of Change
Even when we choose it, change can still stir grief. As walls are stripped back and spaces renewed, we’re reminded that rooms — like hearts — hold everything: the laughter, the tears, the moments we thought we wanted to forget. This reflection explores how the grief of change isn’t a sign something’s wrong, but a way to honour what has lived here, and to soften into what’s still becoming.

Melissa Blum
Oct 152 min read
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The Mirror of Grief: Reflections on Trauma, Scars, and Hope
A mirror to my soul showed me grief, scars, and hope — what felt like the end became just another chapter in my story.

Melissa Blum
Oct 62 min read
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Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month: The Grief We Don’t Speak Of
A reflection for Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month — honouring early loss, the grief often unseen, and the healing power of ritual.

Melissa Blum
Oct 22 min read
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The love remains - a poem about grief
A tender poem for grief, written while preparing a ritual. A reminder that even in absence, the love remains.

Melissa Blum
Sep 301 min read
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Ritual as a Bridge Between the Living and the Lost
Grief isn’t linear. Ritual helps us sit with the ache, reconnect with love, and find gentle ways to carry those who are no longer here.

Melissa Blum
Sep 281 min read
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Scars, Growth, and the Quiet Work of Grief
Grief doesn’t heal smooth. It leaves scars - tender and textured. Through ritual, we can honour our scars and invite new growth alongside th

Melissa Blum
Sep 261 min read
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The soup of emotions
Emotions aren’t linear. Grief is a soup of sorrow and joy, guilt and love - all valid, all welcome.

Melissa Blum
Sep 181 min read
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The sound of grief
Grief is often silenced. This song traces its rise, breaking, and softening - giving grief a voice, raw and heard.

Melissa Blum
Aug 281 min read
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When the World Changes, but Your Mind Doesn’t: Why Grief Isn’t Erased by Milestones
Grief doesn’t always shift when the world does. Here’s why milestones may not bring relief—and how ritual can meet you in the in-between.

Melissa Blum
Jul 112 min read
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When Grief and Motherhood Collide
Parenting through grief is heavy. This tender reflection reminds you—you’re not failing. You’re human. You’re still showing up.

Melissa Blum
Jul 42 min read
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Not Broken. Cracked Open. But Growing
Cracked open doesn’t mean broken. A raw reflection on grief, healing, and giving ourselves grace when the journey feels too hard.

Melissa Blum
Jun 272 min read
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Where the Ink Settles: A Reflection on Trauma and Grief
Trauma doesn’t vanish — it bleeds. Softening, but spreading. This is a reflection on how it shapes us, long after the moment.

Melissa Blum
Jun 212 min read
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The Grief That Has No Name
Grief isn’t always loud. Sometimes it’s quiet, unnamed, and layered. This is a reflection on the many shapes it can take.

Melissa Blum
Jun 52 min read
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Children, Death, and the Stories We Tell
Children grieve too. They need truth, tenderness, and ritual—not silence. We don’t have to hide our grief from them.

Melissa Blum
May 252 min read
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The Invisible Cracks
After grief, you walk with invisible cracks—some days gold, some days sticky tape. Both are sacred. Both are still holding.

Melissa Blum
May 182 min read
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Bittersweet Baby
No one warned me how bittersweet the last baby would be. The joy. The finality. The aching knowledge that every first is also a last....

Melissa Blum
May 42 min read
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